Better to be friends before dating
Apparently he noticed me, too, and we ended up talking for hours, very quickly becoming friends ourselves. Both of us were single, but I was moving to New York in just under a month so we just platonically enjoyed that short time we had together.
Then I moved to New York City, which could have been the end of the story, but we stayed in touch for two years via email.
It was a great time of getting to know each other in a low-pressure environment, surrounded by our closest friends.
Because relationships are all so different, there are no hard and fast rules, but when asked I always suggest a period of friendship of at least three months before you decide to take the next steps into a dating relationship.
Friedrich Nietzsche once said: This concept serves to teach us the importance of building a foundation for happiness that stretches beyond intimacy into friendship itself. When dating, we typically only want to show someone our best self.
We are always well put together, well behaved, and well mannered.
Here are some reasons why friendship builds a solid foundation for a relationship: Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, speaker, and author of the book True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, and 21 Days to Jump Start Your Love Life, where she writes candidly about dating, relationships, and how to find true love.
But the issue this causes is that we are not building strong foundations for relationships.Nancy left her car in the parking lot at work and rode with me.After a great meal and drinks, our hosts started dancing to an Anne Murray album so Nancy and I followed suit dancing very close when on came the lyrics, ‘Could I have this dance for the rest of my life… ’ Nancy jumped out of my car, and we both headed to our own separate apartments. However, we didn’t actually sleep together until a while later. We just had our 10th wedding anniversary.” —Bill, 46, Thousand Oaks, CA Love lesson: Having a “play date” can lead to the real thing.You value what’s in the other person’s head and who that person is.I think a big issue with relationships these days is that people (particularly men) separate the idea of a relationship from the idea of a friendship.